Extremism, Compassion and Books

We live in a time of extremism. We are divided along fault lines of who we vote for, who we pray to (or don’t), what language we speak, who we are and who we love. In the news each day, I see people building walls and pulling triggers. We don’t even want to know theContinue reading “Extremism, Compassion and Books”

A Great Big Ball of Wedding Stress

The wedding approacheth. In less than 30 days, I’m getting married, which is wonderful. But there is still more preparation that needs to happen between now and then. The thing no one tells you about planning a wedding is that it’s a logistical nightmare — you have to figure out everything from coordinating the differentContinue reading “A Great Big Ball of Wedding Stress”

Ceremonial Considerations

When Stephanie and I Skyped with one of the two pastors who will be officiating our wedding, we hadn’t given much thought to the ceremony. After nearly nine months of planning every other detail of the reception and the honeymoon, our ceremony was still an empty shell waiting for substance. So, when he asked us, “WhatContinue reading “Ceremonial Considerations”

The Plunge

All too often in my life, I wade into unfamiliar water. I gingerly stick in a toe and inch my way in. It’s an agonizing way to get wet. And it isn’t just a problem in literal water. When it comes to change, I can be slow to jump in the deep end. But notContinue reading “The Plunge”

The Writer Pops The Question. The Engineer Says “Yes.”

This weekend, a carefully orchestrated plan came together and I emerged forever changed. It started with an innocent pancake breakfast and a walk on the beach at low tide. Then, I asked my girlfriend, Stephanie, to marry me. I did it the old fashioned way, with a ring. People have given rings to symbolize theirContinue reading “The Writer Pops The Question. The Engineer Says “Yes.””

Looking at Pictures of Strangers

I don’t know the people in these photos. I don’t know their story, where they live, what their names are, what makes them happy or sad. All I know for sure is that someone left this stack of photos perched on top of the crosswalk button near the train station. Passing by them every day forContinue reading “Looking at Pictures of Strangers”

The Birthday Resolutions Strike Back

I don’t like New Year’s Resolutions. They’re so mainstream. Years ago, I decided to make birthday resolutions instead. Last year, my list of birthday resolutions was one of my highest viewed blog posts. A tradition was born. The Hubble Telescope, the Republic of Namibia, Jennifer Lawrence, Seinfeld, Dances With Wolves, Jurassic Park (the book, not theContinue reading “The Birthday Resolutions Strike Back”

Lucky Thirteen

When I eventually retell the story of my life, I think that I’ll say that 2013 was the year that everything changed. The funny thing about stories is how the details vary with the telling. The exact words are misquoted, the specifics are glossed over, timelines are stretched or squeezed and the wrinkles in theContinue reading “Lucky Thirteen”

A Farewell to Flagstaff

Someone once wrote that all good things must come to an end. For the past twelve years, I’ve had the privilege of living in Flagstaff, AZ. Of all the places I’ve lived in my life, this one feels the most like home. I love it here. I love the eccentric people, the wild weather, theContinue reading “A Farewell to Flagstaff”

Why Do We Read Love Stories?

There’s nothing like a good love story. And Twilight is nothing like a good love story. Or is it? For years, I’ve been trying to decipher the Twilight phenomenon. I wandered into Barnes and Noble and read the first chapter to see what all the fuss was about; I couldn’t see the allure. The writingContinue reading “Why Do We Read Love Stories?”