Tag: habit

• January 9, 2023

  The Birthday Resolutions Pick Up Steam

  

  In the eleven or twelve years I’ve been making birthday resolutions, my success rate is mixed at actually following through on my goals. Some years, I check off each and every one, accomplishing everything I set out to do. Other years, I make little to no progress.

  I think the reason for this has less to do with the resolutions themselves and more to do with me. You see, when I first started documenting my annual ritual of creating resolutions for the coming year on my birthday, I would set out these grand, vague, life-changing milestones to hit—and I’d fall short. It’s not that they were bad goals. I chose them because they seemed out of reach. But I was under the mistaken impression that Future Me would be inspired to try harder and accomplish more, but Future Me saw an insurmountable obstacle and threw in the towel.

  It turns out (no surprise) that habits are hard to change, no matter how sincerely you want it. The older I get, the more I understand what works and what doesn’t work for me. I know that I do better with smaller, specific resolutions—especially when they build on something I’m already doing. Maybe it’s cheating, but it’s a lot easier to hit a target if you’re already aiming for it.

  That self-awareness is at the heart of what makes a good birthday resolution. Sure, you want to grow, you want to challenge and stretch yourself, but you’ve also got to play to your strengths and not set yourself up for failure.

  It’s an approach that’s working for me, helping me make incremental improvements over the course of a year. Of course, that’s isn’t stopping me from making big, vague, no-way-you’ll-finish-this-in-lifetime-let-alone-one-year resolutions like “be the best parent I can be,” but I’m under no illusions that I’ll be checking them off this time next January.

  If Past Me was all about resolutions as rockets, then Future Me is about slow and steady progress. Just keep chugging, Future Me. You’ve got this.

  With all that preamble aside, here are my birthday resolutions for the year 2023 (my thirty-third trip around the sun):

  Finish My Projects

  This one carries over from last year, because I will always struggle to prioritize existing creative projects over shiny new ideas. It’s just in my nature to constantly churn out new stories, but this year, I really want to wrap a few things up, including the final two seasons of The Adventures of Captain Radio, revisions on my novel, and editing a collection of sci-fi stories I wrote with my friends back in high school that really deserves to see the light of day.

  Get Outside Every Day

  If there was a silver lining to the early days of the pandemic, it was my daily walk. It helped me stay grounded when it felt like the world was in chaos. It may be cold or rainy, but a dose of the outdoors, however small, does wonders for my mental health. So, for at least a few minutes every day this year, I want to get outside and get a few lungfuls of fresh air to clear my head.

  Experiment Fearlessly

  I used to write things because I thought they would have mass appeal. I wanted to be taken seriously as a writer and I desperately wanted to be published. But something clicked into place over the last couple of years. I started writing pieces that were less mainstream and more like the things I wanted to read. And a funny thing happened—those pieces found an audience and I was taken seriously as a storyteller with something to say. In 2023, I hope to continue that evolution; to not worry about what everyone else is writing or what I think would be marketable and to trust my instincts. Here’s to a year of fearless creativity.

  New habits and routines aren’t made in a day. These resolutions will take time—if I accomplish them at all. But I can feel the momentum building. It’s gonna be a good year.

  —30—

  Jonny Eberle is a writer, podcaster, and storyteller. He lives in Tacoma, WA with his family, a dog, and three adorable typewriters. His writing has been published in Creative Colloquy, Grit City Magazine, and All Worlds Wayfarer. You can listen to his audio drama, The Adventures of Captain Radio, and his writing podcast, Dispatches with Jonny Eberle, wherever you enjoy podcasts.

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• August 1, 2016

  On Discipline (or Lack Thereof)

  

  Every weeknight for the past three months, at precisely 9:00pm, a notification pops up on my phone. “Write,” it says. And almost every night, I ignore it. Back in the spring, I noticed that I was hardly writing and decided I needed a gentle prod to get back into the habit. So, I set a daily alarm to remind myself to write before going to bed. It didn’t work exactly as planned. I found excuses every time the alarm would buzz. Between quiet nights watching Netflix on the couch with my wife, social gatherings and travel, I managed to ignore the tiny digital voice that called me to write at 9:00pm sharp Monday through Friday. In fact, I became so adept at avoidance that I stopped noticing my screen illuminating each night.

  Until last week, when over dinner the conversation turned to creative endeavors. It came up that I was a writer with a couple of published short stories under my belt. Someone asked, “What is your discipline for writing?” And I had to admit that I had none.

  Jack London was one of the most prolific writers of the turn of the (last) century. Between 1900 and 1916, we wrote and published over 50 novels and works of nonfiction, in addition to hundreds of short stories and dozens of articles. He was successful because he had an ironclad discipline. No matter where he was or what he was doing — running his farm, building a sailboat or serving as a war correspondent — he always pushed himself to write at least 1,000 words a day. That’s nearly 6 million words over 16 years. You can see the same strategy being put to use by the most successful modern writers. Stephen King holds himself to 2,000 words a day — and doesn’t count adverbs.

  Like an athlete training for a marathon or an actor preparing for a show, writers need to practice to be any good. You have to put in your time at the keyboard. Discipline is required.

  Not long after that conversation, I felt a buzz in my pocket. It was my faithful reminder to drop what I’m doing and write. I knew I needed to shape up if I was expecting to continue calling myself a writer. I don’t think I’m quite ready to impose a daily word count. I’m starting with this blog; my first in over a month.

  If I follow my new discipline, a blog will turn into a page of fiction, which will grow into a short story, which may give rise to a novel — a novel I can see through to completion only if I am dedicated to this proposition that a writer writes every day, no matter what.

  I am an undisciplined artist, which is great if I only want to write as a side hobby. If I want to be a writer and build a career, I need more. I need to establish a discipline. Starting now.

  — 30 —

  Jonny Eberle is a writer and serial procrastinator who likes to share his thoughts here and on Twitter. His newest short story, Inheritance, was published by Creative Colloquy in June. If you see him after 9:00pm on a weeknight, yell at him and tell him to go home and write.

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• July 20, 2014

  Writers Don’t Do Schedules

  

  I have always struggled to keep to a schedule. For years, I was a chronic oversleeper and late owl. It’s only in my post-school world that I’ve managed to shoehorn my poor timekeeping skills into the rigid mold of “adult” schedules. It’s a challenge for me to keep at it. Waking up early in the morning, getting to work a little early (instead of rushing in late) and forcing myself to sleep at a reasonable hour. For some reason, my brain doesn’t like those things, especially when it comes to writing.

  My creative powers wax and wane sporadically. Inspiration strikes at the oddest — and most inconvenient — moments. In the middle of a meal, on the way to work, my subconscious will produce a snippet of dialogue or the opening line of a short story. As much as I would like to put the world on hold in those moments, I have to jot it down in my notebook to revisit later.

  For several months, I had a nice setup. I was taking the train to work and had 80 minutes a day to write. Over time, I trained myself to channel my creative impulses into that time frame. I was remarkably prolific, writing a novella, a three-act play and five short stories during my commute. I’ve never written so much so quickly.

  I’m starting to suspect there’s something to this schedule thing. As much as the subconscious creative process yearns for freedom, I think it also secretly hungers order. It can be trained. You can teach it that these are the times when we go to work. Eventually, just like exercise or learning a musical instrument, you get into the habit of writing at a set time.

  Now, I have a new job with a new schedule. Which means finding a new time to funnel my uneven creativity into meaningful projects. Thank goodness for Google Calendar…

  — 30 —

  Jonny Eberle is a writer and schedule rebel in Tacoma, WA. You can read his latest story on Creative Colloquy and follow him on Twitter.