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The Birthday Resolutions Ride Again

09 Tuesday Jan 2018

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Approaching another year with caution, as one does. Photo by the incomparable Stephanie Eberle. Copyright 2017.

Resolutions are funny things. Every year, I make myself a series of promises and every year, I break most of those promises. And yet, I keep making resolutions on my birthday, because while I’m not good at fulfilling them, I still find value in the tradition — in aspiring to do better and be better each year.

This year, as I dive headlong into my late-20s, I’m making three resolutions and if I’m lucky, I may even keep them this time. Hope springs eternal.

1. Complete the first draft of my novel

Astute readers of this blog will probably recognize this one. Last year, I laid out an ambitious goal to write a novel by my 30th birthday. In my original plan, I was going to finish the first draft last year and, well, it didn’t quite work out that way. So, this year I’m going to attempt a new first draft, this time based on a different premise that I’ve been cooking up. With my self-imposed deadline looming, I’m giving myself until November to complete the draft (around 100,000 words). This is a monumental undertaking, but I’m excited about this idea and I’m determined to get it finished.

2. Learn to Accept My Limitations

As I get older, I like to think that I also get a little wiser and a little more humble. I used to think that I could do it all. It turns out I don’t have unlimited time, boundless energy and barrels of talent that I used to believe I possessed — and that’s okay. I have obligations that I must keep; relationships that I must nourish. I can’t follow every harebrained idea that pops into my head. This year, I want to continue to learn how to reel myself back in. Limitations are necessary and by respecting my own limits, I’ll have to be more discerning in my endeavors. From now on, I want to devote my resources to doing a few things exceptionally well, rather than taking on multitudes poorly.

3. Enjoy the Process

In writing and in life, I’ve noticed that I have a tendency to either dwell on the past or start imagining the future. I like spending time reflecting and dreaming, but I don’t want to be so distracted from where I am in the present. I’m writing a novel. I’m young and living in a vibrant, interesting city. These are the years to soak in my experiences and savor the details so that I can draw on them later. I cannot write about fictional lives without living my own life. I want to remember that this year and enjoy the process of accumulating stories.

What are your resolutions for this year? Let me know in the comments!

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Jonny Eberle is a writer in Tacoma, WA. Today is his birthday. His latest short story, The Disappeared, appears in Creative Colloquy Vol. 4, which you can find at King’s Books in Tacoma. Follow him on Twitter and subscribe to his monthly newsletter for exclusive content and recommended reads.

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Revenge of the Birthday Resolutions

09 Monday Jan 2017

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Today is my birthday. And five years ago, it was also a day when I couldn’t think of anything to write about. My blog was just getting off the ground and I knew I needed to write about something to keep myself in the habit and grow my small audience. I was drawing a blank, so I decided to take a risk and talk about something more personal. For years, I’ve been making birthday resolutions instead of New Year’s resolutions and that year, I shared my resolutions with the blogosphere. Five years later, that first blog about how I wanted to grow and change is one of my most viewed posts.

Most of us make resolutions this time of year. We want to lose weight, cut back on the amount of time we spend on Facebook, put more money into our savings, but most of those resolutions are quickly abandoned.  It’s hard to change the course of a river once it’s found a course and human beings are no different, in my experience. Perhaps it’s no surprise that 88% of resolutions fail.

Historically, I have struggled to keep my resolutions (except for that one time when I resolved to move across the country — that one worked out), but I’ve found more success when I limit myself to one or two, put them down in writing and hold myself accountable by telling people what I’m trying to accomplish.

So, as I mark another year of wandering around this crazy world, I’m making one resolution. Just one. Possibly the most ambitious pledge to myself that I have ever made and the one that will have the most potential impact on my literary career. In light of that, I have also resolved to give it the time it deserves, by setting myself a three-year deadline.

Okay, enough build-up. Here it is:

I will complete a final draft of a novel by the time I am 30 years old.

I have tip-toed around writing a novel for the better part of a decade and have little to show for it. Half a dozen unfinished (read: barely started) novels are cluttering my hard drive, but I have never devoted the time necessary to seeing any one of them through to a final draft.

Writing a novel is big. Bigger than any writing project I’ve ever embarked upon. But I think that now is the time. I think I’m finally up to the task. I am fortune to have a loving spouse and a supportive web of friends and family to urge me onward. I’ll be documenting the ups and downs of the process from the initial idea to final draft right here — and I’m grateful to have you along for the ride.

The clock is ticking. Wish me luck.

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Jonny Eberle is a writer and soon-to-be novelist in Tacoma. You can find him on Twitter.

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The Root of All Birthday Resolutions

09 Saturday Jan 2016

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Another year has come and gone, and with it’s time again for my fourth installment of my birthday resolutions blog. Instead of making traditional new year’s resolutions, I like to wait a week for my birthday and I use that first week of January to take a look at my life and decide what I want to do differently in the coming 365 days.

This year, I started by looking at my previous blogs on the subject (Still a Work in Progress, the Best Birthday Resolutions Ever, the Birthday Resolutions Strike Back, and Return of the Birthday Resolutions). The thing that struck me about all of the resolutions that I’ve made before is how I utterly failed to accomplish most of them (with the exception of moving to a new town and getting married: check and check). I think it’s the same for most of us — we set a lofty goal and find we can’t live up to our own expectations.

This year, I’ve decided to take a different direction. Instead of making several resolutions of various habits I’d like to break or form, I’m going to make one. Just one.

This year, I want to focus on getting back to my roots; to the core of who I am and the people, places and activities that make me the person I am. I want to take this year, my twenty-sixth year, and re-center. I’m in a good place to do that — happily married, gainfully employed, settled for the moment — now is as good a time as any to figure myself out and what makes me tick. I’m not sure what it all means yet. And guess that’s exactly the point.

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Jonny Eberle is a writer and relentless self-examiner. He lives in Tacoma, WA. You can find his ramblings on Twitter. What are your resolutions for this year? Share them in the comments and let’s keep the conversation going.

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Harper Lee’s Second Novel Will Change Everything

11 Wednesday Feb 2015

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“People generally see what they look for, and hear what they listen for.”
– Atticus Finch, To Kill a Mockingbird

Fifty-five years is a long time to wait for a second novel, but more than half a century after her debut, it appears that Harper Lee is publishing a sequel to To Kill a Mockingbird. Go Set a Watchman is set in the 1950s and follows Scout, now grown, as she returns to the tired old town of Maycomb, Alabama. After mulling the news over for the better part of a week, I still don’t know whether to be excited or nervous.

Most of us grew up reading Harper Lee’s seminal first novel. It is a masterpiece; a cornerstone of American literature. It’s no surprise to me that Harper Lee was unable to follow it up. Lightning rarely strikes twice.

So, I find it strange that this second book (or, more accurately, first book, as it was written before Mockingbird) is coming to light now. Now, I don’t know if Lee is being taken advantage of in her old age. I don’t know if the book will even be any good. But no matter what this new book is or isn’t, its publication will forever change the world of To Kill a Mockingbird that we all know and love. Its very existence will change the way future generations will read about the little girl watching her father defend a black man in the Jim Crow South of the 1930s. It will offer a different lens through which to understand the characters and events of Lee’s first book and that worries me.

At the heart of my concern is a question — at what point does a work of art cease to be the property of its creator? When a book becomes one of the greatest works of literature of an entire century, does the author retain the right to add or take away from it? At what point does it become part of our culture? Something bigger than anyone, even its author? Of course it’s Lee’s legacy, but it also belongs to all of us who have read the book and loved it. At what point should a great monument be left alone to be what it is?

A new book will hit the shelves this summer and it will change something. Wherever you are, stand up. To Kill a Mockingbird is passing.

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Jonny Eberle is a writer and reader in Tacoma, WA. You can leave your comments below or find him on Twitter.

Return of the Birthday Resolutions

09 Friday Jan 2015

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Three years ago, I wrote a blog about my personal tradition — instead of making New Year’s resolutions, I wait nine days to reflect and then I make birthday resolutions. I got a lot of great feedback, so I’m doing it again this year. Brace yourselves for the triumphant return of the birthday resolutions!

Seeing as this is my 25th trip around the sun, it also felt like an appropriate time for a quarterlife crisis. You know, the kind of crisis where you realize that Mary Shelley wrote Frankenstein when she was only 17 years old. To help calm these old, old nerves, this year’s resolutions serve two purposes — to guide this year and to also reflect how far I’ve come as a human being in progress.

Without further ado, my top three resolutions for the year 2015:

1. Get Married

I asked Stephanie to marry me this past summer and our wedding date is fast approaching. As we nail down the details (What kind of cake are we serving? What color ties will the groomsmen wear? What sized dance floor will fit on the pickleball court? What is pickleball???), I resolve to enjoy the process of being engaged. I want to soak in the stress and also the moments where we lay the foundations of the rest of our lives. We have years and years ahead of us to be married; we only get to be engaged once.

2. Build Up Creative Momentum

My life has been radically changed these last six months. With a new job, a new house and a whole new laundry list of things I have to do. Often, that pushes my creative projects off to the side. I don’t want to lose sight of writing, filmmaking and photography. They are part of who I am. After getting my first short story published in 2014, I want to keep up that momentum into this new year. Short stories, novellas, short films, maybe even a novel manuscript. We’ll see where this path takes me.

3. Be the Snail

Everything is happening so fast all around me. It seems like just yesterday I was I writing the first script for Obscure Studios, my film company, but in reality 10 years have gone by. I’m 25 now and it feels like time is moving faster and faster. I don’t want to waste any of that time. I want to savor it — the good times and the bad. I don’t want to live my whole life as a cheetah. I’d prefer to be the snail. I’m in no hurry to get anywhere (but I am going somewhere). My style is slow and steady.

What are your resolutions for the coming year? I’d love to hear them in the comments. Thanks for reading!

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Jonny Eberle is a writer and super old person in Tacoma, WA. When he’s not busy balancing his work, home, and creative lives, you can usually find him renting a car or getting cheaper auto insurance. He also likes Twitter.

The Birthday Resolutions Strike Back

09 Thursday Jan 2014

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I don’t like New Year’s Resolutions. They’re so mainstream. Years ago, I decided to make birthday resolutions instead. Last year, my list of birthday resolutions was one of my highest viewed blog posts. A tradition was born.

The Hubble Telescope, the Republic of Namibia, Jennifer Lawrence, Seinfeld, Dances With Wolves, Jurassic Park (the book, not the movie), “Ice Ice Baby,” Windows 3.0 and yours truly all turn 24 this year. Some of us are aging better than others. I’m looking at you, Hubble. As I approach the new year, here’s what I hope to accomplish in 2014.

1) Get My Fiction Published

This last year, I broke into freelance writing. It felt great to find an outlet for my nerdy love of foreign policy and politics, but it was all strictly news writing. This year, I want to bulk up my publishing credits in the area of fiction. I tried to sell my first story to a literary journal in 2012. Two years of chasing the dream of seeing my work in print have taught me a lot. I have a good feeling that my hard work will pay off this year. All it takes is determination.

2) Communicate More Good

I moved across the country last year. As difficult as it has been to establish myself in a new community, it’s been even harder to maintain regular communication with old friends back home. My friends are like my family. I don’t want to lose them because I let them drift away. This year, I’m making a concerted effort to stay connected with the people who matter most to me.

3) Invest In My Passions

In the year-and-a-half since graduating from college, I’ve labored under the belief that my dream career path and a successful career path were two different things. But I’ve come to understand that success can’t be measured in dollars. You can’t make your working life be your only reason to get up in the morning. I don’t know about you, but I need to be engaged in things that make me feel alive. Freelancing in topics that interest me are a part of that. Carving out time to be with the people I love is another. I know there’s nothing revolutionary about this idea, but this year, I want to refocus on the people and activities that bring me joy.

Here’s to a new year, new adventures and the beginning of the countdown until I can legally rent a car. Carpe annum.

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Jonny Eberle is a writer in Tacoma, WA. You can wish him a happy birthday by following him on Twitter or share your own resolutions below. Thanks for reading!

The Best Birthday Resolutions Ever

09 Wednesday Jan 2013

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The funny thing about being alive is that your birthdays keep adding up. Today, I’ve been breathing on this planet for 23 years (if I were a dog, I’d be 105). It’s been five years since I became old enough to vote and two since I could legally purchase alcohol. There’s no real milestone for 23, but I still think it’s an occasion to stop and reflect on my life. Where most people make New Year’s resolutions, I make birthday resolutions. As I begin my next turn around the Sun, here’s what I hope to accomplish in the year 2013.

1) Never Stop Learning

Last year, I graduated from college. Now, I still don’t know if I want to go back to school. I’ve enjoyed the freedom of the post-grad life. But regardless of whether or not I return to the Ivory Tower, I still crave the dizziness of learning. I don’t want to shut my brain off. I want to learn more about the world. This year, I want to read books that challenge me and talk to people who force me to question my assumptions.

2) See the World

As long as I can remember, I have loved to travel (except when I get carsick). I like going new places, experiencing cultures, trying new foods and getting completely lost. Last year, I couldn’t travel very much because of school, but now I’m ready to pack my bags. In my life, I hope to stand on every continent. Why not start now?

But aside from short excursions from home, a bigger adventure is brewing. I’ve lived in Flagstaff for all of my adolescent and adult life and with each passing year, I find there are fewer things holding me here. My family no longer lives on the mountain and my friends are slowly drifting away. I love Flagstaff, but 2013 may be the year I try something new.

3) Embrace Failure

This was the first year that I tried to sell a story for publication…and it didn’t happen. Failure is a part of life and for someone who always excelled academically, it can be difficult to accept. And sometimes, when failure seems to be a real possibility, I prefer not to try at all. I’m a lot less cautious than I used to be and want to continue risking failure. A healthy fear of the unknown can be good, but I don’t want it to hold me back.

As I enter this next year of my life, I’m ready to leap without taking too long to look at where I’ll land. I may fall flat on my face, but that’s a risk I have to take.

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Bonus post: Still a Work in Progress (my resolutions for 2012)